About the author : Antwuan Malone
Antwuan Malone is a Ministry Director at ELEVATE Young Adult Ministry (elevateministry.net) where empowers young adults toward Christian leadership. He is passionate about seeing young adults take their place in church history by drawing near enough to God to hear his call on their life, and courageously living in obedience to that call.
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It’s just amazing. Amazing the way God made men and women to fit together so perfectly. Amazing how hard it can be to figure out the opposite sex. Amazing how we still love each other despite our differences… and we are different. Very different. Men and women express their feelings differently and want different things from a relationship. They want to be shown love in different ways. I don’t know it all, but as a female, here’s what I think women want from men in a loving relationship.
Princess 2.0
Every woman wants to feel like a princess. We grew up dreaming of being a princess. The poofy pink gowns and crowns may have changed, but the dream remains. Women want to feel cherished. She wants a man who attends to her, admires her. She wants to be told she’s beautiful, to hear her man’s “I love you,” even if he already said it 5 years ago (or five days ago). She wants to feel wanted. Adored. And… she wants conversation. Women want to know a man will listen, even when she cries. Forget fixing the problem. Just listening and empathizing with her about her problems is a fix in itself. She needs an honest, yet gentle guy. She’s not Wonder Woman – at least not all the time. And sometimes, after playing hero all day long, she needs somewhere to release. Being there, listening, paying attention, and being interested in those times are huge. Those are the things that make her feel like a princess.
By Her Side
Women also want to feel safe. She wants to depend on him, to trust herself around her him, and to feel appreciated for the little (and big) things she does. She needs someone to team up with. And fellas, that means helping out. Not just coming to the rescue, but doing your part in daily duties. So many women feel their work is overlooked. They do so much – for the home, the family, and the kids – and most of the time it all seems to go unnoticed. Feeling unappreciated by her husband is one of the worst feelings. No one likes feeling taken for granted, but there are so many women out there that feel exactly that way. The remedy is simple. It’s in the smallest acts of service. Clean the dishes after dinner every once in a while. Run a bubble bath so she can relax. Rub her feet when she lies down for a minute. Give her a break. Plan a date night. Again, attend to her in whatever way is meaningful to her. It won’t take much time, but it’s amazing how appreciated, and therefore loved, she feels after these small gestures. It’ll be soworth it. Although she needs her girls, she ultimately wants her man to be her best friend. She wants to know he’s on her side, that he has her back. These are a few things that will help allow her to feel that way. Sometimes love feels easy, and sometimes it’s pretty tough. Any lasting love is not for the weak. It will take some work, and at some point, always involves pain and sacrifice. But with all the work, pain, and sacrifice comes the greatest thing in the world. Love.