What Women Want

In Love by Antwuan Malone5 Comments

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It’s just amazing. Amazing the way God made men and women to fit together so perfectly. Amazing how hard it can be to figure out the opposite sex. Amazing how we still love each other despite our differences… and we are different. Very different. Men and women express their feelings differently and want different things from a relationship. They want to be shown love in different ways. I don’t know it all, but as a female, here’s what I think women want from men in a loving relationship.

Princess 2.0

Every woman wants to feel like a princess. We grew up dreaming of being a princess. The poofy pink gowns and crowns may have changed, but the dream remains. Women want to feel cherished. She wants a man who attends to her, admires her. She wants to be told she’s beautiful, to hear her man’s “I love you,” even if he already said it 5 years ago (or five days ago). She wants to feel wanted. Adored. And… she wants conversation. Women want to know a man will listen, even when she cries. Forget fixing the problem. Just listening and empathizing with her about her problems is a fix in itself. She needs an honest, yet gentle guy. She’s not Wonder Woman – at least not all the time. And sometimes, after playing hero all day long, she needs somewhere to release. Being there, listening, paying attention, and being interested in those times are huge. Those are the things that make her feel like a princess.

By Her Side

Women also want to feel safe. She wants to depend on him, to trust herself around her him, and to feel appreciated for the little (and big) things she does. She needs someone to team up with. And fellas, that means helping out. Not just coming to the rescue, but doing your part in daily duties. So many women feel their work is overlooked. They do so much – for the home, the family, and the kids – and most of the time it all seems to go unnoticed. Feeling unappreciated by her husband is one of the worst feelings. No one likes feeling taken for granted, but there are so many women out there that feel exactly that way. The remedy is simple. It’s in the smallest acts of service. Clean the dishes after dinner every once in a while. Run a bubble bath so she can relax. Rub her feet when she lies down for a minute. Give her a break.  Plan a date night. Again, attend to her in whatever way is meaningful to her. It won’t take much time, but it’s amazing how appreciated, and therefore loved, she feels after these small gestures. It’ll be soworth it. Although she needs her girls, she ultimately wants her man to be her best friend. She wants to know he’s on her side, that he has her back. These are a few things that will help allow her to feel that way. Sometimes love feels easy, and sometimes it’s pretty tough. Any lasting love is not for the weak. It will take some work, and at some point, always involves pain and sacrifice. But with all the work, pain, and sacrifice comes the greatest thing in the world. Love.

What do you say?  What do women want in a relationship, but don’t often get!  Tell us below!

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Antwuan Malone is a Ministry Director at ELEVATE Young Adult Ministry (elevateministry.net) where empowers young adults toward Christian leadership. He is passionate about seeing young adults take their place in church history by drawing near enough to God to hear his call on their life, and courageously living in obedience to that call.
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Guest
Guest

I'm reading this years after you posted it, Antwuan, but you hit the nail on the head. I want to feel like my husband's cherished partner (captured by both of your points above). Unfortunately, I feel like his roommate. Thank you for posting this. Maybe it will make a difference in someone's life.

@lisa_dawn1
@lisa_dawn1

Ok, I'll admit that we want men to pick up on the subtle hints. This can be thought of as mind reading by some. Really, instead of telling her she didn't ask for 2 pieces of cheese, you could have curled up next to her, put your arms around her and said, "Tell me what's on your mind sweetie. I'm here for you." Next time try that! And also Chris, I noticed that you mentioned that if your wife had just told you what was wrong, you could have fixed it before she took it out on you. Again...you don't have to try to fix it, just listen. That's what we really want.

Chris Dardy
Chris Dardy

I think a woman wants a mind reader!!!! Lol that's what I think!!

Chris Dardy
Chris Dardy

Hey Twuan and Lisa, y'all have done a great job on this. The only thing that I have to say is... It's all about communication. I know that if my wife was to write something like this it would be a little different just because how our relationship is and it hard to try to understand her sometimes. y'all will get mad if we don't pick up on your vibe and asking what's wrong and all that. don't get me wrong. a lot of women think that men are mind readers and we are suppose to know what's on your mind... For ex. (and it's usually the small things) my wife would ask for two grilled cheese sandwiches. so I stop what I'm doing to make these sandwiches and once I'm done take them up there to her. she is like, "what is this?" I say "yourrr grilled cheese sandwich." she goes, "did you put two pieces of cheese on here?" I say "no. you didn't ask for two." she said she didn't want it anymore I'm like what the hell? and she was mad for the whole night. so I ask what's wrong and she didn't say anything at all. so I just blew it off cause I didn't know what was going on with her. she ended up telling me later what it was, but the fact is if you would have told me that ahead of time when you got in the house we could have solved that problem before you took it out on me. It's all about communication and don't get me wrong. all the things that you said is right, and how us men need to take care of wife or girlfriend or whatever the case may be but first thing first! communication!

Guest
Guest

Oh, I do apologize for giving the credit to Antwuan. I read this too quickly and responded before rereading it (didn't change my mind about how valuable it is). Although Antwuan's name is on it, it seems to have been written by a woman. Whoever wrote it -- good job!

@antwuanmalone
@antwuanmalone

Ah, so he must realize that it's really not about the grilled cheese... there's something more!

@antwuanmalone
@antwuanmalone

All over some grilled chees sandwiches? LOL! I hear you. I think communication is big too. In fact, I think there's a blog somewhere on that. Check it out. http://bit.ly/dJS1DW

antwuanm
antwuanm moderator

@Guest Thanks anonymous person! It was written by my beautiful wife! She's more talented than she thinks. I'll be sure to pass along your comments!